Stop tip-toeing and start dancing!

I find it strange, and yet intriguing, the way people act toward those who are doing things to improve their lives. It seems that when someone is doing something that makes them happy, thats the time when others criticize them the most.

I believe this is especially so with women and I find it odd. I've always been of the mind that women should support each other more, rather than treating each other as mortal enemies...as if all other women on earth are there for the sole purpose of competing with you. It's downright idiotic, if you ask me.

What makes me most happy is doing things that make me feel fucking amazing...and not just at that moment, but even when I look back on it. I feel so good for having done that thing, whatever the hell it was. That's when I'm most happy.

I'm also happy when I see others doing this. when I see their passion for something, even if that passion is fleeting...I love seeing the excitement - their joy when they share it, the way their eyes light up when they even think about that thing, whatever it is. I love being surrounded by people like this. Even if I, personally, have no interest in whatever that thing is, I LOVE being around people with a passion: a love of life...those who wake up with a goal and go to bed satisfied.

Those who don't look down on others and criticize them, but who help them up as well. Why not help others up? I mean...it makes no sense not to. It makes no sense to surround oneself with those we feel we can look down on. What does this serve, really? And who is anyone to look down on someone else? It's nothing more than an insecure person on an ego trip. It's sad, really.

I just don't understand that mentality.
Truly, I don't.

I was once that way, but it was a long time ago and I was filled with a lot of self-hate back then. I was a girl on a suicide mission - in one form or another, who had no idea how to live. I was stuck in a perpetual state of "once I have this, or do that, or go there....I'll be happy. I'll be starting my life."

Nope.
Not gonna happen.

The fact is, if you're not happy right this very second, you're NEVER going to be happy.
If you cannot find happiness in the present, you'll never find it, because happiness cannot be attain out THERE...in any fashion, from any person, in any place, in any THING....it's inside you, waiting to be cultivated.

I'm not perfect with this, as a matter of fact, sometimes I downright suck at it. I suffer from SADD and Winter is hard on me. Living in Ohio is especially hard, because of the lack of sunshine in the Winter months. It's hard for me to feel motivated, to even want to get dressed some days. You know what though? I get my ass up, I recognize what's happening, I reach out to friends who love me (that's key...you have to know they care about you, otherwise, don't reach out to them or you'll just be fodder for gossip - food for their ego trip), and I put on my smile, tell myself I'm happy, count my blessings and before I know it, I feel better.

This takes practice, but you can do it.
You CAN make yourself happy.

It starts with thankfulness.
You have so much to be thankful for. Sit down and make a list...if you're able to read this blog, you have access to an electronic device & you are literate. There! Two things for your list already. Two things we take for granted every single day.

Make that list.
Every day and every night think about things you are thankful for. I guarantee it'll help boost your mood. Mentally strong people do this and other things...it takes practice, but you can train your brain to be happier.

from: Forbes Magazine

Here's something else to remember too. Sometimes it doesn't matter what you do. There are those who are just UNHAPPY and it has nothing to do with you. They hate themselves, they hate their lives, they criticize other women for various reasons, they have a negative thing to say about everyone and everything. My advice? You've got to sit down with yourself and be really fucking honest about your relationship with this person. Is this a family member or a long-time friend? You can't cut them out, but you can limit the time you spend with them. 

If this is a new person in your life and you get nothing but negativity and stress, then let them go. You're not obligated to be best friends with everyone you meet, nor is it healthy to. Let them go, but always be open to them, because everyone can change. 

Just do what makes you happy. 

Live according to your values in life and don't worry about the rest. 

It's YOUR life, after all. 

The only opinion that matters is yours. 

So, stop tip-toeing and start dancing, babe......